So, Hank (in his mind) became Sarah, and then completely freaks out. Now he's hopelessly confused. How can he believe he is a woman? He defines himself as a straight male, and feels tremendous shame. I'm going forward with the stories, but I'm having a hard time figuring out how Hank feels about all of this. He's not just going to say, "oh, sometimes I forget who I am and I'm a woman during those times and it's cool". When I've done male drag I've always been conscious of myself as a female. It's a persona, not a person.
Has anyone dealt with those issues, or known someone who has? I really need help with this.
ALSO: the question of virginity. Is it always having penetrative sex with a woman? I'm hetero so that's always been the definition I've known. What is it for gay men? What defines virginity/no longer a virgin?